Deathing Cover Deathing:

An Intelligent Alternative

for the Final Moments of Life


Anya Foos-Graber

Published in 1989 by NICOLAS-HAYS, INC., York Beach, ME 03910
Second printing, 1992
ISDN 0-89254-016-8

Distributed by Samual Weiser, Inc.
Box 612, York Beach, ME 03910

Everyone who is born is someday going to die. Some of us will die peacefully in our sleep, some will die in accidents, and some as the result of diseases, cancer or AIDS. Because we do not usually know when we are going to die, most of us are frightened of death. We do not want to talk about it, do not want to face it, and we run from it as long as we can. And some of us die a lonely death--in a hospital, surrounded by strangers and white sheets, while family and loved ones are kept out of the room at the final moment.

Anya Foos-Graber believes that death, like birth, should be a shining, light filled, conscious moment. Death is not a disease. It is the most natural passage we will make since birth. Looking at death before the time comes is like learning about natural childbirth before having a baby. Just as women are choosing to be conscious participants in the birth process, Foos-Graber feels that all of us should be conscious as well of our eventual death--that we should prepare for it the way the Tibetan Buddhists and American Indians used to do. The author calls this process of conscious preparation and practice deathing.

The book presents two teaching stories, illustrating both a conscious death and an unconscious one. The second half of the book is a step-by-step manual, containing complete instruction and simple exercises--such as breathing, visualization, and the all important, "6th technique," or your chosen "Name and form of God" to which you direct your attention in life and the death transition. You can use the formless LIGHT itself as referent, an absence of any belief structure. A support person rather like the father's presence in natural childbirth can assist in the event of coma, or accident death.

Other books have been written about grief, about wills, about taking care of your affairs. This is a book about taking care of yourself, and how to be helpful to someone you care for. Deathing has two aims: to make sure that the dying are comfortable and comforted as they die, and to help all of us prepare for the greatest adventure we will face since birth.

"DEATHING is landmark contribution to human healing--not just for persons approaching death ( who isn't) but for those entrusted with their care, such as physicians, nurses, and family. This book is a magical blend of practicality and spirituality. It will help many find peace in life's crowning event." ------Larry Dossey, M.D. author of SPACE, TIME & MEDICINE: Recovering the Soul; HEALING WORKS: The Power of Prayer and the Practice of Medicine.

Deathing has also been published in French and German

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Anya Foos-Graber is a writer and lecturer. Survivor of two near-death experiences(NDE), she received degrees from Peabody College and Vanderbuilt University, has taught in high schools and colleges, as well as teaches yoga classes. Her work with the deathing process has attracted attention in the media and health professions since 1984, when she published an earlier, unexpanded version of Deathing. Her work has also been the inspiration for a film by the same name, made by the Hartley Film Foundation. She has published two other books, Skycleaver and One Soul Rising. She is currently at work on a reincarnation novel, which will be part of a series.
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The Deathing book is available from among other places. I have not been able to locate a source for the German or French version lately, but am sure they still exist from the publishers.

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